17 September 2012

Book Blogger Confessions #16: Blogger Relations


Book Blogger Confessions is a meme hosted by Midnyte Reader and For What It's Worth - every second Monday book bloggers spill the beans on some juicy book blogging questions!

Blogger relations: Are there blogs you visit and comment on because you like their style, voice etc.(maybe you even converse with the blogger on Twitter & Facebook) but those comments are never reciprocated on your blog?. Do you get a bit offended or do you understand that they may be busy? Or do you comment just because you like a post not expecting anything in return?

I have something of an addiction to visiting other blogs and I love commenting whenever I have something of substance to stay. I literally check my GoogleReader three or four times a day to see what's going on. But I do admit that I sometimes get a little bit miffed when I leave multiple comments on a blog and never ever receive a comment from them on my own. It may sound a little bit childish, and I know how busy bloggers are, but if I'm taking the time to visit them often, maybe they could take the time to visit me.....

At the same time, I don't want people to feel that just because I comment they have to come and comment on one of my posts - I want people to comment because they WANT to. And I'll admit that at times I do visit people that have commented on my blog, but may not leave a comment just because I have nothing of substance to say about their posts.

Commenting is a great way to show appreciation for each other, it makes us feel good when someone leaves a nice comment, or gets us thinking with a thoughtful comment, but I admit that when I get a really generic/spammy type comment, I won't visit that person - cutting and pasting comments all over the place doesn't add any value.

And to anyone that rarely comments because they don't have anything of substance to say? Just do it - even if its to say something like 'oh I want to read that book and your review has made me even more excited to read it' or 'I read that one but I didn't really like the main character' - these types of comments aren't meaningless :-)

How do you feel about commenting on blogs? If you're a blogger, does it bother you if you post a lot of comments on someones blog and they never come to visit you?

25 comments:

  1. I agree with you. I don't care if it's a "meaningful" comment. I appreciate anyone who takes the time to visit and say something.

    I won't visit back though if it's a generic I'm here so now visit/follow me.

    Love your answer :-)

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    1. As long as it's relevant, it's meaningful to me!

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  2. I'm one of those people that doesn't always remember to visit someone who comments. :) I sometimes remember, and even when I do go to their site, if I cannot find anything to say about their posts, which happens to me a lot, then I don't comment. I do feel like some of the standard comments are lame, but I guess when I receive them, they are appreciated...So I guess I need to just start saying SOMETHING more often. :) But no copy & paste! boo on that!

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    1. C&P is horrible. I'm not the best at visiting people either, but I'm trying :-D

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  3. " I do feel like some of the standard comments are lame, but I guess when I receive them, they are appreciated...So I guess I need to just start saying SOMETHING more often." I'm with Smash. Lol.

    Great answers, Kat. I love the honesty. :D

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    1. Yeah she made me all paranoid that it's my comments that are lame ;-)

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  4. I need to get better about taking the time to comment, and to comment back. I tend to get caught up in being busy, and get out of the habit .... so this week's question is a good kick in the butt. :)

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  5. Great answer! I try to visit people who have left comments on a post to return the favor, but sometimes it's hard to come up with something so say. I don't like the "come visit me!" comments either, as that's just spam. I'm working on getting out there more and spreading the comment love, but it's harder than expected! :(

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    1. It's hard to balance it all out - the more time commenting, the less time reading :)

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  6. Totally agree! And so glad I wasn't the only one who got sad. lol. Yes, I want people to visit because they want to...and I love any kind of comment!

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  7. Great answers and I agree with comments too. I do try to leave meaningful comments, but I don't spam the blogger either.

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    1. I remember someone saying that comments like 'great review, this book sounds great' were meaningless. It actually made me really wary about leaving comments. But if you haven't heard of the book before, there's nothing much more than we can say!

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  8. Agreed! I try to comment on most of the reviews that I read or even skim, just so the blogger feels loved. And, though I don't often check, I am po'd when the blogger hasn't responded to any of their comments.

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    1. Look, look, I replied! I try and do it as often as possible, but I don't always. It DOES turn me off a blog when I can see that they don't reply to any of their comments at all - makes me wonder if they are even reading them.....

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  9. I have to say, one of the greatest things about the blogging community is that it's, well, a community. There's supposed to be a dialogue, otherwise, what's the point? Sure, I'll admit, I get SUPER excited when I see comments on my posts, but I don't want people to feel obligated to say something. I want them to say something because my review/words had an impact or illicited some sort of reaction out of them.

    You're absolutely right... say something meaningful even if it's something little like "wow, you're review was super thoughtful". Don't say something because you expect me to reply, in kind. I try really hard to comment on the blogs that I love most because I want to show these people that I support all their hard work, even though, I sometimes don't have the time to always comment.

    Great post!

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  10. I just realized I used "you're" instead of your in my comment. My bad!

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  11. I like commenting when I have time or in the mood for it. But yeah, it's discouraging when I don't get any comment back. I also comment a lot of blogs and I don't have time to go back to each one. So, if they want me to read their reply, they would have to tweet me about it. Otherwise, it becomes this assumption that the blogger doesn't care.

    Here's my Book Blogger Confessions

    P.S. Love your blog color scheme :D

    (This is so weird. I tried commenting earlier and your blog disappeared... Now it's back.)

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  12. I comment on blogs that I enjoy reading. The only time I don't comment is when I don't feel like I have something pertinent to say or if they've reviewed a series and I haven't read the previous books.

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  13. I hate the feeling of waking up in the morning to find no comments overnight! I do try and spend time each day leaving comments on the blogs I read but it does take a lot of time!

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  14. SO I am a guilty one of hardly commenting because I don't know what to say. Recently a light bulb went off and I realized that it doesn't really matter to me what my comments on my blog say, I am just happy someone commented. So I am working on the commenting thing! :)

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  15. I'm with you. If I go and comment on a blog a lot and they don't reciprocate, chances are I'm going to stop commenting. This is a social community and you have to be just that, social! I love your comments, they rock!

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  16. I comment when inclined but I agree with the substance part. Sometimes I may have something very generic to add but it was what I was thinking. But usually I only comment when the post really grabs my attention or thoughts. Commenting so often reminds me of year book signing day. You are so excited for all those personalized comments but then later you discover most of them are actually "Have a great summer." Not quite as thrilling as those in depth and personal ones from close friends. But still a bit fun. So I try to spread the love when I have the time.

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  17. You don't reply frequently enought to your commentors to build up the mega-sized audience that some do that way. Not every site build their audience through comments, but many do.

    I try to comment at least occassionaly to sites I follow - as much to show appreciation as anything else.

    One problem with your comments section is that you don't have a "follow this post" button. It is somewhere in blogger (It took me some time to find it), but it does make it easier to get an interactive discussion between commentors going. I think when commentors start talking between themselves (rather than multiple point on point between blog author and viewers) is when site go viral.

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