01 October 2012

Book Blogger Confessions - Blogger Envy


Book Blogger Confessions is a meme hosted by Midnyte Reader and For What It's Worth - every second Monday book bloggers spill the beans on some juicy book blogging questions!

Do you have a bad case of blogger envy? Do you covet thy neighbor bloggers book hauls/follower numbers/blog design? How do you tamp down the green eyed monster?


I'm going to be brutally honest today. I'm the kind of person that constantly compares myself to everyone around me - whether it's blogging, work, the clothes I wear, the house I live in. It's a bad habit, and certainly not a healthy one, but it's just the way I am.

When it comes to blogs, the things I envy the most fall squarely into two categories:

Designs - despite the fact I'm immensely proud of the fact that although I'm a complete techno-spaz and I've designed and built my blog all by myself (and with the power of Google!), I'm often envious of other peoples blog designs - whether it's custom-made or just far more creative than I could ever be, I'd love to be prettier and fancier than I am. But deep down (maybe not that deep) I know that if I wanted a cool, funky more-awesome-than-Friday-night design I'd have to open up my purse and fork out for it, and that's what I remind myself of every time I get that green-eyed flash.

Book Hauls - this is something I'm trying hard not to be envious of. I get loads of fabulous e-arcs, awesome authors contacting me and asking me to review their books and I'm lucky enough to be in the situation that I can pretty much buy any book whenever I like, but I still find myself getting the hump when I see other bloggers getting their lucky hands on the books I'm stalking. And yes I know I can't have them all, and I certainly can't read them all, but it still gives me a twinge occasionally.

Six (or maybe even three) months ago, if this question had come up, I probably would have confessed that I was envious of other bloggers follower numbers. But recently I've just stopped worrying about it - I got bored of being envious of things I can't change and besides, I'm happy with the followers I have and it means more to me to have quality over quantity!

Overall though, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to have a little bit of blogger envy occasionally - especially if we can use it positively and strive to be better bloggers :-D

What about you, do you get blogger envy?

31 comments:

  1. All of the above! I'm exactly the same, I always seem to be comparing myself even though I tell myself all the time that it'll only drive me towards an unhappy (or less happy) ending, in the blogoverse and in life. Since I've only just started to blog, of course I'm envious of other established book blogs in design, book hauls and followers. It's so hard to be patient!

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    1. I know about the impatience thing for sure - no lie, I used to check my stats/followers at least twice a day. And then, one day, I realised I hadn't checked for weeks - I got sick of beating myself up about it and just decided to go with the flow.

      It will happen :)

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  2. I do think the envy can be positive too. Most of the things we're envious of can be changed on our own blog.

    That's great that you were brave enough to admit what you were jealous of! I had those jealousies at one point but like you I got bored with it. If I'm that upset I should do something about it.

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    1. Putting so much effort into being envious doesn't change anything except make us frustrated. As long as we are happy with ourselves, it doesn't matter what we imagine other people think!

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  3. I think its amazing you can do all the tech stuff with the blog.
    Yes numbers, books and etc and for a while I was right there along with you.
    But it gets to to much work sometimes .

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    1. I heart Google so much! And other bloggers are a fabulous help when it comes to anything technical.

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  4. I agree that envy can be something to be turned around --- at least, that's what I try to do. When I start having the envy monster whispering in my ear, I try to get motivated, instead.

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    1. And if it doesn't work, then I just shrug it off and focus on something else :)

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  5. 'I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to have a little bit of blogger envy occasionally - especially if we can use it positively and strive to be better bloggers ' YES!. I agree with this, Kat. :D

    And I love the look of your blog!

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  6. I love your point about taking something positive away from what you are envious about. I like your blog design. It's simple. I sometimes have to click off of the blogs with too much stuff going on.

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    1. Thanks! Having a slow internet and using a net book also has me appreciating simple designs too!

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  7. your blog is beautiful and clean and I definitely like it more than the others :) it's always a nice feeling coming here.

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    1. Thanks Arianne, I really appreciate that :)

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  8. I think most, if not all, of us who blog get stricken with blogger envy. It's only natural and you're 100% right--- if you use it to better yourself and your blog, then there's nothing wrong with using it as motivation from time to time!

    P.S. I prefer a more simple blog layout. It's too distracting when you have too much stuff going on, so you definitely have the right idea here.

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    1. I love simplistic designs, I just want some of the fancy widget-y things sometimes. But I'm not going to stress out about it :)

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  9. I get blog envy sometimes too. But as much as envying others sucks, just try to remember that there are others out there who probably envy your blog, the books that you read, etc. It goes both ways, but we don't realize that when we focus on our own envy. Just thinking about that always cheers me up a little.

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    1. That is such a good point, Jenn! Human nature I guess :)

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  10. Your book hauls make me drool. We all get envious over other blogger's books, but geez. I have almost 500 unread books in my possession. I get over the envy real quick when I remind myself of that.

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    1. My book hauls freak me out! We aren't even going to discuss how many books I have unread and haunting me.....that's what helps me get past any envy I have too!

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  11. I can see your point about letting the envy drive us in a good direction. Instead of falling into a slump use envy to make a push in some given direction. I suffer from book haul envy far more often than I would like.

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    1. Book hauls are funny things - I envy them and at the same time I wonder just how people can have that many books and not have a stress-induced breakdown!

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  12. Honestly, I'm so glad every time one of my blogger buddies writes one of these posts. I'm doing better now, but I used to struggle a lot with feelings of jealousy, especially over book hauls, even though I wasn't getting through all of my review books.

    I still envy everyone's blog design, but I should be getting one sometime soon!

    Also, I'm really telling NG to fuck off, and I feel marvelous about it. I will try to review the things I've got from them, but not very hard, mostly just as the spirit moves me. I was stressing about it, and, really, if I don't plan to use it but for tours anymore, who cares?

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    1. Giving NG the finger was the best thing I've done in my blogging life - I don't feel them looming over me anymore and I can just read whatever I want! Yeah!

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  13. I definitely get blogger envy. I think a lot more of us do than we realize or will admit to! Recently I made the choice to NOT pursue as many ARCs and to soon stop taking review requests for awhile (probably through the end of the year) to get fully caught up, sit back, and actually read some books JUST because I want to. I've had a bit of pressure building up due to ARC tours, deadlines, and such, and I think I want a break from all of that.

    I used to get SO SO envious watching IMM/book haul vids. Now I find I can be happy for the other bloggers and in fact? As much as a part of me still gets a bit jealous, I don't WANT to receive 20 books a week. I'm happier with one or two, plus the ones I buy.

    Molli | Once Upon a Prologue

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    1. It's a huge relief to get rid of that pressure! I did it recently myself (I have a grand total of TWO blog tours scheduled for the rest of the year and damn it feels good!) and reading what we want to should be a very important, if not the most important, thing.

      I used to envy those huge hauls too - but the books I have waiting on me make me feel guilty enough! Imagine having to find a place to KEEP 20 books a week too!

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  14. I love that you're turning a negative into a positive. It just makes you want to work harder than ever to get those followers up. I completely agree that you can get jealous of all the books they receive, but it's overwhelming. I'm at the point where I need to try to finish a book a day, and read the next one right after because I'm behind on my reading. There's so much reading to be done, and that doesn't even include all the other things we book bloggers have to do.

    Oh and the blog designs..You can always learn how to do it. It's also so much fun!

    Great post :D

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    1. Oh Giselle, that's no fun at all :( I got myself into the same situation and in the end I just had to pull the plug on things - it was stressing me out too much!

      I like learning things about blog design, and it is loads of fun - I'm just not very good at it ;-)

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  15. I admit to blogger envy too, but think most of us feel that way every now and again. I've started turning down more requests, as I'm always falling behind and don't think I'll ever get my TBR pile down to a managable size. Don't you just love Google! Almost everything I've done on my blog has been thanks to Google! *L*

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  16. I am really envious of book hauls. :( And that includes you, Kat. :p

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  17. thanks for sharing..

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